I’ve spent quite a bit of time lately talking with a friend who is in a bad relationship – and we’re talking bad with a capital B – and it’s really got me to thinking that maybe it’s better to be alone than with the wrong person. It seems like a lot of people stay in bad situations largely because they fear being on their own. As someone that has been a single more than I have been a couple I really don’t understand that. True, I’ve never been in a long-term relationship, or a marriage so I can’t fully relate, but I can’t help but think that alone has got to be better than bad.
Now that’s not to say that I want to stay single for the rest of my life. I would love to find someone that I can spend the rest of my life with. That’s something that I want very much, and there are times that it weighs very heavily on me that I haven’t come anywhere near that. But I have also learned that I can be very happy on my own, which, I think, is why I don’t put up with guys treating me like crap. I walk away. Yes it sucks to watch something crumble. It sucks to go from “+1” to “1”, but I’ve never regretted the decision to walk.
I’m single now, and I’m in one of those “it sucks to be single” moods. Which is ridiculous because I have so much going on right now that my brain would probably implode if I tried to throw a relationship in on top of everything else, but hey the heart wants what the heart wants. I think that’s the saying anyway. But I know one thing about my heart, it knows exactly what it wants and exactly how it should be treated and listening to my friend’s tribulations has firmly cemented that conviction. So for now I can leave all the “Mr. Wrongs” at the bar and walk away knowing I made the right choice. Sometimes being alone is better, because with the right friends even though you’re alone, you’re not lonely.